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Igor Olegovich Vagin graduated from the Second Moscow State Medical University and residency in psychiatry. He worked as a senior shift doctor in an ambulance for psychiatric care in Moscow.

Graduated from the All-Russian Research Institute of General and Forensic Psychiatry. V.P. Serbsky. He defended his thesis on the topic "Socially dangerous actions of mental patients."

From 1991 to 1995 worked as a chief specialist in the Department of Priority Problems of Medicine and Healthcare of the Ministry of Science and Technical Policy of the Russian Federation, supervised scientific research in the field of medicine, in particular, the State Scientific and Technical Program "Health of the Russian Population". Trained abroad on Coaching programs in Yugoslavia in 1991, Business Consulting - Negotiation Process in the Netherlands, Team Education in Germany. Business consultant.

Author of his own unique programs: "Superpowers", "Face to Face with Death", "Practical Coaching", "Communication Genius", "Irrational Psychosynthesis", "Hard Negotiations", "Effective Sales Practice", "Do You Love money”, VIP “Power money is power”.

President of the Business Development Group of Companies
President of the international training center, business coach, psychiatrist, psychotherapist, candidate of medical sciences.
Academician of the International Academy of Informatization. Psychology expert of the Ministry of Education and Science of the Russian Federation.
Co-founder of the International Association of Personality Development Professionals,
Lecturer at the Higher International School of Business under the Government of the Russian Federation.
He worked in the Ministry of Health of the USSR, the Office of the Central Committee of the CPSU and the Presidium of the Supreme Soviet of the USSR, the Ministry of Science and Technology of the Russian Federation.
Has 30 years of experience in psychotherapy,
For 20 years personally conducted more than 1000 trainings.
Author of 47 books on business psychology and psychology.

Personal website http://www.igor-vagin.com/

Books by Vagin Igor Olegovich

Igor Olegovich Vagin - President and Academician of the Academy of Irrational Psychology, Academician of the International Academy of Informatization. Psychotherapist, sexologist, candidate of medical sciences. She has 25 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy and psychology. Over the past 12 years, Igor Vagin has conducted over 500 trainings for 30,000 students in Russia, Germany, Thailand, Yugoslavia, and the Netherlands. The author of bestsellers, including "Basic Instinct", "Win the Destiny at Roulette", "Lessons in Psychological Defense", "Have Money", Psychology of Evil, "Psychology of Life and Death", "Know how to think brilliantly", etc.

Igor Olegovich Vagin graduated from the Second Moscow State Medical University and residency in psychiatry. He worked as a senior shift doctor in an ambulance for psychiatric care in Moscow.

Graduated from the All-Russian Research Institute of General and Forensic Psychiatry. V.P. Serbsky. He defended his thesis on the topic "Socially dangerous actions of mental patients."

Conducted over 1000 trainings for firms, enterprises, public organizations. In addition, over 30 trainings abroad: in Germany, the Netherlands, France, Thailand, Lithuania, Latvia, Estonia, Ukraine, Kazakhstan, Uzbekistan.

He writes books on business psychology, including: "Get your company off its knees", "Why you are still a beggar", "The psychology of prosperity", "Tame the golden calf", "Negotiations. Win every round", "Have money. The psychology of wealth "," How to become a billionaire in the world. Author of 36 publications and bestsellers with a circulation of more than three million copies.

Currently, he is one of the three most widely read psychologists in Russia.

He has a black belt in karate, is fond of diving and windsurfing.

Books (12)

Rise above the crowd! Leadership training

If you are a person who does not want to be "like everyone else", then this book is for you. It's no secret that in any kind of activity, be it business, science or art, in addition to professionalism, you need something else to make people follow you. There is an opinion that the ability to be a leader is given to a person from above. But it's not. Each of you can become a leader, you just need to constantly work on yourself.

After reading the book by I. Vagin and A. Gluschay "Rise above the crowd!", You will see for yourself. With the help of unique psychotechnics developed by the Academy of Irrational Psychology, you will be able to turn from a “follower” into a “leader” and achieve any goals.

Hare, become a tiger

The vast majority of modern books on psychology, found in abundance in bookstores, are extremely naive and promising: `Think positively, dream, hope, and everything will be fine, you just wait`. Such books may be good for American society, but our country lives by different laws. Our people face a simpler and tougher task: to survive on their own and let their parents and children live. It is precisely this problem that the new book of the candidate of medical sciences, a psychiatrist, and the president is devoted to. Academy of Irrational Psychology by Igor Olegovich Vagin.

How to make an elephant out of a fly

Leadership qualities will not replace either connections, or money, or education. Leadership is as much a skill as working on a computer, playing tennis or chess. It is often said that in order to be a leader, you need a certain type of character. But what exactly is required for a person whose goal is self-improvement on the way to the realization of his plans? First of all, it is the desire to be the first, the best, patience and learning. Leadership is not just a set of skills of behavior and thinking, it is a lifestyle under the motto: "If not me, then who?"

How to manipulate the mind

Did the title of the book surprise you? Still, we all got used to it from childhood that it is not good and unethical to impose our will on others. And, perhaps, after reading a few chapters, you will slam the book in horror: “What does this Vagin teach! How to suppress others?! What cynicism! What a nightmare!". Yes, dear reader, this nightmare and cynicism is our life. I teach methods of psycho-suppression, I teach methods of manipulation. In the modern world, as in sports, only the one who knows how to attack wins. Only a person who knows the techniques of karate can cope with karate. He will be able not only to defend himself, but also to win ...

Do not pretend that you are so naive, dear reader. It's no secret that people around us do not always love us, treat us kindly. In a cruel world, one must be able to protect one's dignity, defend one's rights, save face and pride. At the same time, sometimes you have to fight not only for yourself, but also for loved ones.

The best psychotechniques for success

This is a unique book that contains the most effective psychological techniques of Igor Vagin. With their help, you will get rid of feelings of fear and guilt, resentment, anger and hatred. You will define your life goals, strengthen your self-confidence, learn to overcome any obstacles! Having mastered a variety of communication techniques, you can arouse sympathy and trust in yourself, and, if necessary, repel psychological attacks.

Basic Instinct: The Psychology of Intimacy

This book, which has no analogues in the domestic psychological literature on interpersonal relationships.

Secondly, because it analyzes in detail the most difficult moments of the relationship between a man and a woman, gives practical advice and ways to solve acute problems.

And finally, thirdly, because it was written by a woman and a man. And this means that the book is devoid of a one-sided approach to problems.

The psychology of evil. Conflict Resolution Practice

Which is stronger, good or evil? How to win over internal and external evil? Are all conflicts solvable? How to smooth out the "external conflict" and how not to break down with the "internal conflict"? Where can uncontrolled emotions lead?

This book is an original psychological guide that will help you find the shortest and, most importantly, the right way to overcome internal crises and resolve conflict situations.

- Strengthening psychological immunity.
- Overcoming destructive feelings: anger, revenge, shame, jealousy.
- Protection from people who are difficult to communicate with.
- Psychological methods and techniques for overcoming the conflict.
- Countering the state of anxiety.
- Psychological defense against feelings of guilt.

Learn to think brilliantly

We live in the 21st century, in which success and money are practically inseparable concepts. How to succeed in this life? How to earn so much money so as not to know the need? What is needed for this?

Try to answer these questions for yourself and remember, the more panoramic your vision, the larger your desires and thoughts, the more success you can achieve!

Win against fate at roulette

"Win from fate at roulette" - a recognized leader in sales. The second edition of this bestseller contains additions inspired by life itself. Have you read this book before? Feel the difference! If for some reason you once lost sight of this "guide for the lucky ones", then the current edition is just a sign of fate for you. And fate, as you know, is a very capricious lady. Take the opportunity, because luck is changeable. The author does not doubt for a second that any person can and should control his own destiny. What prevents this? First of all - self-doubt and fear of responsibility. Away with doubts! You are dealing with Igor Vagin, and therefore bet bolder, gentlemen!

Yes, dear reader, this nightmare and cynicism is our life. I teach the techniques of psychological self-defense, I teach ways to protect against manipulation. In the modern world, as in karate, the one who is better prepared and has a large arsenal of techniques wins. Only a person who knows the techniques of karate can cope with karate. He will be able not only to defend himself, but also to win ...

Do not pretend that you are so naive, dear reader. It's no secret that people around us do not always love us, treat us kindly and are ready to communicate with us in a civilized way. In this world, one must be able to defend one's dignity, defend one's rights, save face and pride. At the same time, sometimes you have to fight not only for yourself, but also for those close to you.

Knowing and mastering the techniques of psychological self-defense will help you more successfully, negotiate, go through stress - interviews, bargain, repay debts, manage staff, more convincingly conduct televised debates, win verbal duels. So pick up a psychological weapon! Who is warned is armed. Today people don't just kill with bullets, knives or baseball bats. Sometimes even a word can mortally wound. And there are already plenty of "verbal killers".

The conclusion is simple: you need to be fully armed! Use this book as a guide to action and you won't regret it!

P.S. Use psychological self-defense strictly according to indications. Your reaction in the process of communication should always be adequate. There is no point in using these techniques if you are communicating with normal people in a constructive communication mode. Why provoke people to aggression by making enemies?

Part 1
Psychological self-defense

Chapter 1
The tongue is worse than the gun!

The art of parrying verbal blows is the most necessary thing in life. People who do not go into their pocket for a word have been respected since ancient times. Winners in verbal duels earned themselves the glory of great orators. The ability to sting with a word is valor. In ancient Greece, for example, Diogenes of Sinope became famous for his ability to strike back. His antics are written in many ancient writings.

Before becoming an eccentric and a philosopher, Diogenes was engaged in minting coins. But soon he was convicted of cutting off money. Later, enemies repeatedly reminded him of this "sin of youth." “So what,” Diogenes answered them. “As a child, I not only cut coins, but also urinated on the bed!”

It's inconvenient, they say, it's very clean. Without hesitation, Diogenes cleared his throat and spat in the face of his companion: “Sorry, I couldn’t find a worse place here!” On another occasion, Diogenes heard a man who, with the air of an expert, talked about celestial phenomena. And he asked him: “Have you yourself descended from the sky a long time ago?”

The ill-wishers somehow reproached Diogenes for visiting vile and indecent places. “So what,” said Diogenes. - And the sun sometimes looks into the cesspool. But that doesn't make it any dirtier."

Once Diogenes began to beg for alms from a man known for his stinginess. He sarcastically remarked: "I will give you alms, Diogenes, if you convince me to do this." “If I could at least convince you of something,” answered the philosopher, “I would convince you to hang yourself!” Contemporaries wrote that somehow, once Diogenes began to beg even ... at the statue. When asked about the reasons for the strange act, he replied: “Do not interfere! I'm training myself to be rejected!"

It is also known how Diogenes reacted to the famous statement of Socrates "I only know that I know nothing." “I am smarter than Socrates,” he declared. “Because I don’t even know that!”

The name of the eccentric philosopher has been preserved for centuries. The ability to find a sharp word in time will be useful to you today. It will help to win in an important dispute. It is foolish to object directly, to rush at the enemy, like a bull rushes at a bullfighter. We need to be more flexible, listen to objections and respond quickly and effectively. Only speed, wit and the ability to understand the hidden motives of the opponent guarantee victory in a verbal duel. There are a lot of tricks that will help you successfully put a presumptuous interlocutor in his place. Here are just a few.

White from black. By turning the negative into a positive, you will completely disarm the enemy. It turns out that he does not blame you, but praises you.

- you got fat

- But your husband began to look at me

- you got fat

But I don't drown in water.

– You talk too much on the phone!

– Of course. This is necessary in business: customers are people too and love to communicate.

– Last week you said just the opposite.

- Of course! But I'm a fast learner!

– It is clear that you are from a simple family. Mother was probably a nurse, and father was a worker.

- Do you want to emphasize by this that my rise is a gigantic success for me?

- You're a fool.

“Nothing, but I’ll be pleased to shade your mind.”

– You are just a jerk!

- Of course! I'm confident!

- you are greedy

I'm not greedy, I'm prudent.

– You are too careful!

But I don't make mistakes

– You are always in a hurry!

- But I'm never late.

You don't know how to listen to people!

- I can see right through them.

- You always have to wait

- But what pleasant meetings there are

– This is stupid!

– But how funny!

Boomerang. Pay rebuke against the one who attacks you. He probably didn't expect this turn of events.

Zhukovsky to the sick Pushkin:

– Yes, misfortune is a good school

Pushkin:

– And happiness is the best university!

Question to Kennedy during the speech:

– What can the country do for young people?

Kennedy:

- You ask what the country should do for you, and I will ask you: what can you do for the country?

– You don't protect my interests at all.

– Perhaps I am not defending your interests, but I am defending the interests of the cause!

More answer options:

– I can barely defend mine.

– Ready to protect your interests if you will protect mine.

Your answers don't suit me.

– What is the question, what is the answer!

Bringing to the point of absurdity. The reproach can be exaggerated to such an extent that it can only be laughed at. Try it, the reception is win-win!

– Is it true that from the great to the ridiculous one step?

Mayakovsky:

– Yes, and I am making this step towards you!

You are constantly cheating!

Two TV presenters argue on the air. One to the other says:

– Have you read my articles?

– My dear, I haven’t read all of Dostoevsky either.

– You're a curmudgeon!

– Would you like me to be forced to beg?

– If I had someone to spend money on, I would not save.

"Don't you think you've grown fat?"

- That's something under me today at the bus, the rear axle broke!

You don't like people!

- Yes, I don't. I am a vegetarian…

- You are a burr on your ass!

- Depending on whose. ... There are very nice asses!

Why don't you have a boyfriend?

- There was one, but he hanged himself from happiness

An absurd comparison. By comparing the bad with the worst, we put the situation in a favorable light. It is enough to add a little humor and you will easily be able to deal with an impartial remark.

- You have unreliable partners!

– Ha! And my friends are worse...

"You're just having a nervous breakdown!"

– It only seems. In fact, everything is much worse

– What are you, a neurologist?

An absurd benefit. The joke will never fail. And in any situation, you can find a couple of playful pluses. Tell them about them, and you will see for yourself how your opponent will be blown away.

– Looks like they forgot to put your brains back in during the operation!

– Yes, and I've been at my ideal weight ever since.

You keep making the same mistakes!

– At least I don't have to strain and come up with new ones!

The answer is a question. By asking a counter question, you seize the initiative

It is very convenient to use questions of definition: "What do you mean?"

The next opportunity to formulate a good answer is that you turn a reproach into something positive.

You are so smart, why are you not married?

- Do you have a catalog of suitors?

- I don't believe what you say.

– How should I tell you so that you believe?

– Service in your company leaves much to be desired.

– And what, in your opinion, should be an excellent service?

– Why are you so lop-eared?

- And what, ears are the main male value?

Why do you forget everything?

Why remember everything?

- What are you doing?

- And what do you think?

- What don't you see?

– Why do you have a pigsty on your desktop?

Are you interested in piglets?

Are you more interested in the chicken coop?

Since when is creative mess called a pigsty?

categorical refusal. Turn the reproach inside out and forcefully prove your case. Here are a number of possible phrases for the beginning of statements: “No, it’s wrong”, “You are wrong”, “This is your opinion”, “This is your point of view”.

“People make mistakes”, “This is your subjective opinion”, “There are other opinions

- You are constantly rude.

It seems to you. I can take care of myself

- You don't know how to drive a car.

- This is your opinion ... My friends say that I am a great driver

– You are a loser.

– Your opinion is wrong. Recently won the lottery

– You haven't fully understood the problem!

– It seems so to you! I know the situation like the back of my hand.

Your project needs improvement.

– You are wrong. He's practically ready.

. Your point of view is outdated.

– No, not true, my point of view is ahead of its time.

Weak? Press on the most powerful psycho-complex, and the enemy will be defeated. Nobody likes to feel weak.

– You dance just awful!

– What about dancing together?

More answer options:

– I’m just removing my legs so that you don’t crush them on me ...

– But I sing well!

– It's weird, but others like it. Maybe you have no taste?

“It's too risky an idea.

– Are you willing to take risks?

Specifics. Attacks on the specific shortcomings of the interlocutor sometimes help save time and nerves.

– It's too expensive.

– And you don't have any money at all?

"We'll talk when your sanity returns!"

“He hasn’t left me for forty years now, and you didn’t even notice it. By the way, when will yours be back?

What would you like? This magic formula will help to confuse an overly aggressive interlocutor more than once.

– What are you quiet?

– Would you like me to freak out?

- Why are you walking around like a bitch?

– Would you like me to walk like a bitten?

- Yes, you are a simple housewife!

– Would you like me to be a prostitute?

Another option:

Someone has to be the master of the house!

Role exchange. Have you been "run over"? Immediately go on the attack yourself. Don't waste time!

– Are you hitting your kids?!

– And who else will teach them how to fight?

More answer options:

– And whose should I beat?

– And yours beat you...

Sharp response against criticism. Shift your focus. Make the opponent confuse with your sharp remark or snide counteroffer.

– Would you wash your car!

– Nothing, it will dry out - the dirt itself will collapse ...

You talk too much on the phone!

– It's good that I have someone to chat with!

- Why did you not cope with foreign policy issues?

- Tormented internal enemies!

I don't like your way of asking the question.

– So we are not engaged in productions, but we are solving the issue!

"nitpicking" on words. Feel free to choose any word from the attacker's phrase. And try to be precise. As a rule, this forces the opponent to take a back seat.

– It's taking too long.

– What do you think "too long" means? Isn't the process worth it?

You are cheating customers!

What does "deceiving" mean? Maybe I'm cheating when they themselves demand it!

– There is nothing to be expected from such a miser!

– What did you expect from him then?

Full consent. Any attack is meaningless if you agree with everything in advance. Just don't overdo it!

“Your trousers are all muddy!”

– Amazing observation! And my shirt is also not the first freshness ...

- You only think about yourself!

– Yes, what else? I don't have anyone close to me...

– Super idea. Demonstrate to the opponent a certain goal, in front of which his reproach will seem miserable and stupid. Speech, they say, is about important things, there is nothing to find fault with the details.

– Why didn't you warn the customers in advance?

– The task of the company is not to warn customers, but to make money. This is exactly what we have achieved.

Self-esteem. Remember: you are the master of the situation. Everything you do is right, one hundred percent. And if so, you can safely spit on the comments.

– Why do you always have the last word?

– And who else could it be?

When was the last time you read something other than newspapers?

Directness versus hints. Hidden reproaches are most easily broken by revealing the "little trick" of the opponent. Express openly those nasty things that he tried to disguise.

– It is hard to believe!

– Are you saying that I'm lying? Right?

– Honey, how much is this dress?

– Are you trying to imply that I'm wasting money on nonsense again? Did I understand correctly?

coup. Turn the reproach in the opposite direction. If you are caught in a shortcoming, then your opponent does not have such a “minus”. Ask how he managed to achieve this.

– Speak to the point!

– I am amazed at your ability to always say only the main thing. How did you learn it?

– You have terrible pronunciation.

How do you manage to speak so well?

- You're always late!

How do you manage to always be on time?

Exaggerated consent. Do not be afraid to agree and joke about the comments addressed to you. There is no better weapon than humor. Bringing the opponent's statement to the point of absurdity, you neutralize it.

You are always blushing!

– Yes, I was even recently invited to work as a traffic light.

Remedy against braggarts. Someone else's boasting always gets on your nerves. But you can always put the "many talents and advantages" of a braggart in a bad light. The main thing: determination and a good sense of humor.

– My husband has 50 subordinates!

– Does he work as a caretaker at the cemetery?

– About me recently wrote in the newspapers!

Yes, I remember reading it. There was something about a scandal in a brothel...

Covert counterattack. You can always parry the blow with a sharp statement, starting with the words "better than ...".

– Your width is undone!

– How considerate you are.

“You don’t have a hairstyle on your head, but a garbage can!”

– Better rubbish on the head than in the head!

Many other methods could be cited. Surely, you yourself have resorted to similar methods of self-defense more than once in your life. It's quite natural! At my trainings, visitors specifically learn well-aimed answers and come up with the best way to win in a verbal duel. Here are just a few examples from the classroom:

"Why do you look so stupid?"

– And not to stand out from your group.

- What are you muttering there?

The rest can hear me fine. Maybe you have hearing problems?

- Why are you so arrogant?

– Or maybe from the height of the position!

- You are an upstart!

– Yes, and I'm proud of it.

– You are a bitch.

– Better to be a bitch than a fool!

Your skirt is too short!

– Well, with those legs, I can afford it. What does she turn you on?

Everyone is calling!

– We are intelligent people, let's get to know each other first ...

What, you want money?

- Don't you want money?

Techniques for Closing a Verbal Duel. It's time to end the verbal squabble, and you should have the last word. What can be said?

– Well, shall we continue to measure wit (intelligence, male genital organs) or will we move on to discussion, business, the main issue?

- It's interesting to dive with you, but it's time to discuss the main thing.

“How long are we going to practice verbal dueling?”

- How are we going to throw ambitions or start working?

- Well, shall we continue to laugh or discuss seriously?

– Shall we philosophize or solve a specific problem?

- It was interesting with you, but now seriously ....

The ability to quickly respond to impartial statements is useful to anyone in life. Review all of the above techniques and examples again. And then try the following exercises. Simply put, learn to come up with witty answers on the go. Ready? Forward! So they tell you:

You failed the project!

Can't you dress more fashionably?

You speak English like a chimpanzee!

Why did you lie about your colleague?

You are too fat!

What are your weaknesses?

You can always ask my advice. After all, your work is not going well right now, is it?

Could you put a muzzle on the dog?

They complain about you all the time!

There is already mold on this cake!

You are so boring!

You drink too much!

Why do you have such yellow teeth?

Stop acting rude!

These suggestions are for you to warm up! Get your hand (more precisely, language) and do not be afraid to enter into an argument. Verbal duels are unavoidable. But you can learn to always come out of them as a winner!

Chapter 2
Psychological karate

Let's get straight to the point. Do you just need to run into someone? Put in place presumptuous friend? To prove to a colleague that he is not the smartest here? Come on, don't pretend to be an angel. After all, sometimes you really want to strangle someone quietly. But for some reason it can't. You need to stick a smile, nod and talk, as if nothing had happened. Don't worry! In the course of a polite conversation, a person can be smeared on the wall so that even his own mother will not recognize him. And do it all nicely, quietly, carefully. After that, you can safely demand anything from your victim. The main thing: to study the art of psycho-suppression.

Remember the first rule: you need to detach yourself from the situation. Look at your future victim as a kind of "biological object". As the hero of one film said: “When I go to knock out money, in front of me is not a person, but an entry in a notebook.” Remember: anyone can put pressure on the psyche! The only exceptions are pathological types, such as lunatics, drug addicts and religious fanatics. Feel free to deal with everyone else. Turn into a kind of cyborg, Terminator, who has no emotions as such. There is only one “but”: before you run into, compare the weight categories. You understand, "Zaporozhets" is better not to rush at full speed to KAMAZ. And, having decided on a "collision", try to "accelerate": your psyche should be at the peak of activity, stronger than the opponent's psyche. Just do not look menacingly at the future victim or stare at her with an unblinking gaze. Your gaze should be penetrating and motionless. You have to look through the person. So that it was not clear to him, either you were staring at him, or you did not notice him at all. Now it's time to put pressure on the word and attitude, to submit to your will. Don't forget about the voice mode. It is best to speak calmly, measuredly, slightly crushing intonation.

It's simple: you are a generous benefactor, and your interlocutor is an unfortunate victim, whom you kindly help, open your eyes to life. Remember this formula, and behave accordingly.

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Let's start with a handshake. Or rather, from his absence. Nothing unsettles even quite confident people more than refusing to shake an outstretched hand. Only no demonstrative gestures! You stretch out your hand, and immediately, without a pause, "distract" to move a chair or straighten your counterpart's tie. The hand of the interlocutor smoothly hangs in the air ... He is confused, depressed. But there is nothing to be offended by: you straightened his tie, you took care of him. The first blow has been struck!

uncomfortable place

Now about where to plant your guest. This is not such a trivial question. A low, uncomfortable sofa, on which, with all your desire, you can’t sit comfortably, is the best option. The poor interlocutor will either have to crouch on the very edge, or, like an amoeba, crawl along the soft back. As you can see, both options just put it in your hands. In the hands of an imperious, confident person who sits on a high chair with a rigid back and patronizingly looks down at him. It is not so easy to build an authority out of oneself, having fallen into a deep chair. The inner core is lost, which means that self-confidence is lost. Don't believe me, compare. And immediately buy a sofa for uninvited visitors in your office ...

I know a quick-witted chief physician who skillfully used this technique. He… filed the legs of all the chairs in his office. And under his table he made something like a miniscene. As a result, he invariably towered over everyone who came to him. Usually, only at the very end of the conversation it became clear who was who: when the owner of the office left the table for a farewell handshake.

Well, then - on the list! You won’t believe how many notorious personalities are hiding under the guise of strong and confident people. But bringing them to clean water and making them dance to your tune is as easy as shelling pears. It is enough to portray sincere surprise: “Oh, they scared me that you are a bitch, but you, it turns out, are a very nice woman ...”. Or turn to an old friend: “Something you are conceited. You rarely come in, you forgot about us mere mortals completely. Of course, you are a cool businessman with us now ... Well, lucky, but, as my grandfather used to say, we all walk under God. After such a tirade, an arrogant friend will probably lose his arrogance.

Igor Vagin

How to put the interlocutor in place

Introduction

The conclusion is simple: you need to be fully armed! Use this book as a guide to action and you won't regret it!

Psychological self-defense

The tongue is worse than the gun!

Diogenes himself knew how to skillfully put people in their place. One day he was brought to the home of a rich and influential man. Moreover, knowing about his bad habit, they warned him in advance not to spit there. It's inconvenient, they say, it's very clean. Without hesitation, Diogenes cleared his throat and spat in the face of his companion: “Sorry, I couldn’t find a worse place here!” On another occasion, Diogenes heard a man who, with the air of an expert, talked about celestial phenomena. And he asked him: “Have you yourself descended from the sky a long time ago?”

It is also known how Diogenes reacted to the famous statement of Socrates "I only know that I know nothing." “I am smarter than Socrates,” he declared. “Because I don’t even know that!”

White from black. By turning the negative into a positive, you will completely disarm the enemy. It turns out that he does not blame you, but praises you.

- you got fat

- But your husband began to look at me

- you got fat

But I don't drown in water.

– You talk too much on the phone!

– Of course. This is necessary in business: customers are people too and love to communicate.

– Last week you said just the opposite.

- Of course! But I'm a fast learner!

– It is clear that you are from a simple family. Mother was probably a nurse, and father was a worker.

- Do you want to emphasize by this that my rise is a gigantic success for me?

- You're a fool.

“Nothing, but I’ll be pleased to shade your mind.”

– You are just a jerk!

- Of course! I'm confident!

- you are greedy

I'm not greedy, I'm prudent.

– You are too careful!

But I don't make mistakes

– You are always in a hurry!

- But I'm never late.

You don't know how to listen to people!

- I can see right through them.

- You always have to wait

- But what pleasant meetings there are

– This is stupid!

– But how funny!

Boomerang. Pay rebuke against the one who attacks you. He probably didn't expect this turn of events.

Zhukovsky to the sick Pushkin:

– Yes, misfortune is a good school

Pushkin:

– And happiness is the best university!

Question to Kennedy during the speech:

– What can the country do for young people?

Kennedy:

- You ask what the country should do for you, and I will ask you: what can you do for the country?

– You don't protect my interests at all.

– Perhaps I am not defending your interests, but I am defending the interests of the cause!

More answer options:

– I can barely defend mine.

– Ready to protect your interests if you will protect mine.

Your answers don't suit me.

– What is the question, what is the answer!

Bringing to the point of absurdity. The reproach can be exaggerated to such an extent that it can only be laughed at. Try it, the reception is win-win!

– Is it true that from the great to the ridiculous one step?

Mayakovsky:

– Yes, and I am making this step towards you!

You are constantly cheating!

Two TV presenters argue on the air. One to the other says:

– Have you read my articles?

– My dear, I haven’t read all of Dostoevsky either.

– You're a curmudgeon!

– Would you like me to be forced to beg?

– If I had someone to spend money on, I would not save.

"Don't you think you've grown fat?"

- That's something under me today at the bus, the rear axle broke!

You don't like people!

- Yes, I don't. I am a vegetarian…

- You are a burr on your ass!

- Depending on whose. ... There are very nice asses!

Why don't you have a boyfriend?

- There was one, but he hanged himself from happiness

- You have unreliable partners!

– Ha! And my friends are worse...

"You're just having a nervous breakdown!"

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Books by Vagin Igor Olegovich

Books (12)

Part 1 Psychological self-defense

Chapter 1 The tongue is worse than the gun!

Chapter 2 Psychological karate

Part 1
Psychological self-defense

Chapter 1
The tongue is worse than the gun!

Chapter 2
Psychological karate