It's never too late to start. It's never too late to start living

Soul Binding 04.11.2017

Dear readers, probably, all of us sometimes thought that it was already too late for something in life. So you can’t buy a house by the sea, as you once dreamed of, don’t give birth to another child, don’t travel around the world with only a backpack on your shoulders. And sometimes we experience similar feelings in relation to something vital, it seems to us that it’s too late to change something in marital status, at work, it’s too late to move, it’s too late to start thinking about health ...

But is it really all that hopeless? Is it really too late to live? Or has life in store for us opportunities for such a case? This is what we will talk about today in the rubric. Its host Elena Khutornaya, writer, blogger, author of intuitive maps, and I give Lena the floor.

Greetings, dear readers of Irina's blog.

We all catch ourselves from time to time feeling that it is too late to change something in life. So, it’s too late to realize your dreams and desires - you wanted something, and now that’s it, the train has left, maybe only in the next life ...

Not too pleasant experiences - probably everyone will agree with me on this. There is something so hopeless in them, a feeling of some kind of deceit, as if life promised something, teased, but did not fulfill the promises, took away hope. How about without hope? Without it, everything always becomes so gray and dull ... And even if there are other joys in life, but at the same time something important is missing, we will always be haunted by a feeling of dissatisfaction that refutes all claims that we came into this world in order to be happy.

Why do we decide it's too late to live

But is it a matter of life for a deceiver? Or is it time to look inside again? After all, no matter how disappointed we may feel, life is really such that if desires are given to us, then opportunities are attached to them to realize these desires. So why does it sometimes begin to seem to us that it is too late to dream of some of them being fulfilled?

And the reasons may be different.

Age

Realizing our age, we increasingly begin to tell ourselves that it’s too late for love, too late to change jobs, too late to learn new things, too late to change attitudes towards something or someone, too late to forgive. The time is up, and it remains to be content with what we have.

Circumstances

They are such that we cannot influence them, and even if we can influence them, we are afraid of the consequences of this and prefer to leave everything as it is.

Lack of Opportunities

It can be about anything - finance, time, support. They don't exist, and they have nowhere to come from, and we decide that this will forever prevent us from getting what we want.

The most interesting thing is that all these reasons have one thing in common.

In fact, all the obstacles to our desires are in our head.

All the obstacles that we see in front of us are only our own limitations, unbelief and lack of true desire. All real desires are necessarily fulfilled, and neither age, nor circumstances, nor lack of opportunities can interfere with this.

Real life examples

I think everyone can remember moments from their own lives when it seemed to us that the best thing that could happen in life had already happened, so there is no need to wait for more. And it didn't depend on age or circumstances, did it?

I myself have experienced this situation several times. In my twenties, I decided that all the best holidays in my life were behind me, and nothing like this would ever happen again.

At thirty, I was sure that it was too late for me to dream of love - there was only a boring, dull life ahead, and all that remained was to come to terms with it. You will laugh, but I really thought that I was already too old for such experiences, and mainly physically. Now, nine years later, it’s funny to myself, but then, in all seriousness, it seemed to me that youth was gone forever, and it definitely wasn’t funny.

Of course, I was wrong. And the holidays in my life were still wonderful, and I found my love, and it turned out that it was not too late to live and love.

And you yourself will probably remember a lot of examples from your life and from the life of relatives and friends, when at some point we decided that it was already useless to dream and desire something, but then suddenly there were opportunities to get what we wanted in the most unexpected way, bypassing everyone obstacles we have seen along the way. And this only once again confirms that everything that happens in life does not depend on external circumstances and parameters, but only on our internal state.

Don't let yourself dream

Someone may say that there is still a big difference between what happens to us at thirty and, for example, at sixty. But for the most part, this is an illusion. Even at twenty we can be sure that everything is over for us and it is already too late to live, while for others, on the contrary, life is just beginning at fifty. We at any age can justify the hopelessness of our situation by the lack of opportunities or the circumstances in which we find ourselves. But in the end, everything depends only on our own perception and attitude to life.

The real reason for our inability to get what we want is always the same - lack of energy to believe and achieve. If this energy and desire is there, then do not interfere with yourself - it means that it is not too late for anything. Do not invent obstacles for yourself that do not really exist.

No matter what anyone says, no matter how contrary to what we ourselves used to believe, the main thing that matters is our willingness to dream and make our dreams come true.

How to start living again

So it's never too late to start living. Check your desires for truth, fill up with energy, follow yourself, look for ways to get what you want. Be realistic, but know how to dream, and every wish will surely come true.

Don't worry about how it will happen, don't try to foresee everything. But be sure that life will find a suitable answer to any of our requests, if only we are open, sincere, and bright in our souls. Let's trust life - and it will do everything for us.

Even if you do not have enough energy to believe in your dreams, at least lie in their direction.

Have a dream? Run to her! Does not work? Go to her! Does not work? Crawl to her! Can not? Lie down and lie in the direction of the dream!

For such cases, there is a good way to tune in correctly: if you can’t openly and freely desire something, well, you don’t believe that it can come true, but this dream still entails, think about what you would like to want this . It may sound strange, but it works great.

Well, I can’t dream that I will still visit Rio de Janeiro, but how great it would be if I could believe that this would still happen!

And remember - everything that needs to be done will definitely happen. What doesn't happen, it doesn't need to. It's never too late, because that's what we're here for - to live. And while we're here, there's always more to be done.

Warmly
Khutornaya Elena

I thank Lena for such a good, inspiring topic. Indeed, even if at some point in life there is no strength left to believe that we are still capable of something, we must always remember that such a state is temporary. And that if we want, we open up, then strength and desire will come again, and the belief that many more good things will happen to us. Because it's true, it's never too late to live, and it all depends on us - whether we will breathe deeply or just eke out an existence. I am sure that you and I, my dear ones, will make the right choice.

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One of the most valuable things in our life is experience. We all want to be self-confident, independent and wise, forgetting that wisdom comes with age and experience. And for this experience you have to go through a lot.

That is why the experience of older people is very important. Those life lessons that they give are one of the most valuable knowledge.

We bring to your attention 50 life lessons shared by Barry Davenport, a world-wise author of a foreign blog.

Life is what it is now. We are constantly looking forward to incredible things that will happen in the future, but we forget that life is happening right now. Learn to live in the moment and stop relying on illusions in the future.

Fear is an illusion. Most of the things we fear will never happen. But even if they do happen, they often turn out to be not as bad as we thought. For many of us, fear is the worst thing that can happen. Reality is not so scary.

Relationship rule. The most important thing in your life is your loved ones. Always put them first. They are more important than your work, hobby, computer. Appreciate them as if they are your whole life. Because that's the way it is.

The debt isn't worth it. Spend money according to your ability. Live freely. Debts won't let you do that.

Your children are not you. You are the vessel that brings children into this world and takes care of them until they can do it themselves. Train them, love them, support them, but don't change them. Every child is unique and must live their own life.

Things collect dust. The time and money you spend on things will one day ruin you. The less things you have, the more free you are. Buy smart.

Fun is underrated. How often do you have fun? Life is short and you should enjoy it. And stop thinking about what others think when you feel good. Just enjoy it.

Mistakes are good. We often try to avoid mistakes, forgetting that they are what lead us to success. Be prepared to make mistakes and learn from your mistakes.

Friendship needs attention. Cherish friendship like an ornamental plant. It will pay off.

Experience first. If you can't decide whether to buy a sofa or go on a trip, always choose the latter. Joy and positive memories are much cooler than material things.

Forget about anger. The satisfaction from anger goes away after a few minutes. And the consequences can last much longer. Listen to your emotions and when anger comes, take a step in the opposite direction.

And remember kindness. A little bit of kindness can do wonders for the people around you. And it requires little effort from you. Practice this daily.

Age is a number. When you're 20, you think 50 is a nightmare. But when you are 50, you feel like you are 30. Our age should not determine our attitude towards life. Don't let the numbers change the real you.

Vulnerability heals. Being open, real and vulnerable is great. This allows people around you to trust you and share their emotions with you, and you can share them in return.

Posturing builds walls. Creating an image of another person in order to impress someone will play a cruel joke on you. Very often people see the real you through the image, and it repels them.

Sport is power. Doing sports on an ongoing basis should be part of your lifestyle. It makes you stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. It also improves health and appearance. Sport is the cure for all diseases.

Resentment hurts. Let her go. There is simply no other right way.

Passion improves life. When you find any activity you're crazy about, every day becomes a gift. If you haven't found your passion yet, set yourself a goal to do so.

Traveling gives experience and expands consciousness. Traveling makes you more interesting, wiser and better. They teach you how to interact with people, their habits and cultures.

You are not always right. We think we know the answer to every question, but we don't. There is always someone smarter than you, and your answers are not always correct. Remember this.

It will pass. Whatever happens in life, it will pass. Time heals, but things change.

You define your purpose. Life is boring without a purpose. Decide what is important to you and build your life around it.

Often risk is good. To change your life, you have to take risks. Making smart and risky decisions helps you grow.

Change is always for the better. Life is changing and don't resist it. Don't be afraid of change, go with the flow and take life as an adventure.

Thoughts are not real. Thousands of thoughts go through my head every day. Many of them are negative and frightening. Don't trust them. These are just thoughts and they won't become reality unless you help them.

You cannot control others. We want the people around us to behave the way we want. But the reality is that we cannot change other people. Respect the uniqueness and independence of each individual.

Your body is a temple. Each of us has something that we hate in our body. But our body is the only thing that belongs only to us. Treat him with respect and take care of him.

Touch heals. Touch has many positive properties. They normalize the heartbeat, improve well-being and relieve stress. This is a gift to be shared.

You can do it. It doesn't matter what situation is in your head. The reality is that you can handle it. You are much stronger and wiser than you think. You will get through it and survive.

Gratitude makes a person happier. And not only the one to whom gratitude is addressed, but also the one who says it. Don't forget to thank people for everything they do for you.

Listen to your intuition. Your reasoning is very important, but intuition is your superpower. She uses your experience and life model to find the answer to any question. Sometimes it arises spontaneously, and it is better to listen to it.

Remember yourself first. Don't be narcissistic, but remember that the most important person to you is yourself.

Being honest with yourself is freedom. Be honest with yourself. Self-deception is blinding yourself.

Ideals are boring. Perfectionism will make your life boring. Our differences, features, phobias and shortcomings are what makes us unique. Remember this.

Take action to find purpose in life. She won't find herself. Help her in this and do your best to find the target.

Small things are important too. We all expect great victories and achievements, forgetting that they consist of small and sometimes even imperceptible steps. Appreciate these steps.

Learn. Is always. If you think you know at least 1% of everything that is in our world, then you have never been so mistaken. Learn every day, learn something new about different things. Studying keeps our brain in good shape, even in adulthood.

Aging is inevitable. Our bodies get old and we can't stop them. The best way to slow down aging is to enjoy life and live every day to the fullest.

Marriage changes people. The person with whom you have connected your life will change over time. But so are you! Don't let these changes take you by surprise.

Worry is meaningless. You should only worry if it leads you to a solution to the problem. But the nature of anxiety is such that it will never happen. Worry turns off your brain, and you are simply not able to solve the current situation. Therefore, learn to cope with anxiety and try to get rid of it.

Heal your wounds. Don't let the wounds from your past affect your present life. Don't pretend they don't mean anything. Find support from loved ones or from those who are professionally involved in the treatment of emotional trauma.

Easier is better. Life is full of complexities, confusions and obligations that only make it worse. A simple life gives space for joy and hobbies.

Do your job perfectly. If you want to achieve something in life, you have to work. Of course, there are rare exceptions, but don't rely on them. Rely on yourself.

It's never too late. Being late is just an excuse for not trying. You can achieve your goals at any age.

Action heals sadness. Any action is a cure for anxiety, procrastination, longing and anxiety. Stop thinking and do something.

Do what you want. Be proactive. Don't wait for life to throw you a bone. You may not like its taste.

Let go of prejudice. Don't be attached to the opinions or beliefs of society. Be open to any opportunity or idea. You will be surprised how many opportunities life gives if you do not reject them.

Words matter. Think before you speak. Do not use words to offend a person. Once you do this, there will be no going back.

Live every day. When you are 90, how many days will you have left? Live and appreciate each of them.

Love is the answer to every question. Love is why we are here. It is the force that moves the world. Share it and express it every day. Make the world a better place.

How often do you hear from people: “I don’t know what I want. I don't have goals." Have you heard this? Have you had such periods of uncertainty? In today's world of opportunity, you need to be able to distinguish between the important and the unimportant. You need to understand what is yours and what is not yours. Otherwise, there is a risk of living an aimless life.

Have you ever thought about the phrase "a purposeless life"?

Life without a goal is when we go forward, not knowing where and why. This is when we run forward, holding on to a pole with our hand, winding an infinite number of circles on the way to an insignificant old age. This is when we serve the goals of other people, taking them out on our own hump. Not having a goal is sometimes nice, it does not impose any obligations or responsibilities. You just live on autopilot. But this is not a happy life.

Happiness is the first minute after reaching the goal.

This is when your eyes water from the fact that you finally got there or, in spite of everything, took it and did it. Achieved. He beat through closed doors, punched through walls, found options and eventually won.

It's never too late to start living a new life

This is very simple to do: first you need to realize that a new life is directly related to change. You will be shaken from side to side, most likely, the saturation of events and their amplitude will increase. When you are ready for this, everything will start to change.

Now is the moment when you can become the master of your life and set for yourself at sunset in 2015, which will surely change your current lifestyle.

What are your goals for 2016

To begin with, I recommend dividing your future goals into several categories: physical, financial, spiritual, socially significant. This is done in order to develop harmoniously in all directions. Do not focus only on money, forgetting about relatives and friends or not paying due attention to your health, but achieve stable results in each of these categories.

Physical goals

1. Run a marathon distance - 42.2 km.
2. Jump with a parachute.
3. Conquer the mountain peak.
4. Participate in competitions in the sport of interest.
5. Avoid alcohol and eating at fast food restaurants.
6. Purchase an annual fitness club membership.
7. Regularly do exercises in the morning, douse yourself with cold water in any weather, and so on.
8. Eat according to the diet set for the week or month.

Financial goals

Each of us wants to regularly improve our standard of living, but this is impossible without setting financial goals. Consider the simplest examples:

1. Throughout the year and set aside 10-20% of the amount of income.
2. Double your current income.
3. Start earning a certain amount.
4. Buy a car, phone, apartment and so on.
5. Start making money doing what you love.
6. Increase the profitability of personal business projects.
7. Invest 100,000 rubles in your own training.

Spiritual Goals

Goals in this category develop you as a person, and they need to be given no less attention than the goals in the first two categories. Examples:

1. Start a personal or professional blog and post regularly throughout the year.
2. Work on developing new skills and competencies.
3. Accustom yourself to regular planning of personal tasks.
4. Learn to speak a new foreign language.
5. Read one book every one to two weeks.
6. Attend courses, seminars and workshops at least once every three months.
7. Learn not to put off things for later, quickly, act immediately.
8. Get to know 10 people you admire in person.

Socially significant goals

1. Tidy up your home, give away unnecessary things free of charge to those people who need them.
2. Participate in a charity event or a trip to an orphanage.
3. Call family and friends every week, visit grandparents regularly.
4. Plant a tree or organize a community work day in your yard.
5. Donate blood once a quarter.
6. Give certificates to the 25 most important people in your life.
7. Try to change the life of a person (read the book by Mikhail Weller "The Adventure of Major Zvyagin"). 

To formulate your goals, I recommend recording fleeting desires and interesting thoughts. Making a list of your goals for the year right away is not an easy task, even for those who do it regularly. To do this, use the simplest tools available: a pen, notepad, or notes on your phone.

How to start realizing your goals

Try to start with simple physical goals. If you don't exercise at all, start exercising. If you practice haphazardly, try to systematize your workouts and set the first intermediate goals. Run a 5K and set a goal to run a half marathon. Go to competitions in a sport that interests you and sign up for participation in the following competitions. Start preparing for them on the same day.

Why is it recommended to start with physical goals? Improving your fitness will give you a sense of overall uplift: physical, mental and emotional. You will have energy and courage for new actions and events. Further more. You will surely succeed!

Do you want to end your aimless life? Grab a pen and make your first entry right now.

Copying targets is allowed!

Sometimes, looking back, we think that life has practically passed us by and it's too late to start anything. No longer receive a new education, do not change habits and character. You are afraid to learn new hobbies, make new acquaintances, because you wrote yourself off. Boy what the hell? You can always start over with a clean slate while you wake up in the morning and your prostate is functioning. To prevent this from sounding like election slogans, we have prepared some tips that you should know about.

Realize that you live in the present

How many people live with past problems, constantly worry about the future, but forget about the present? The anchors of past years do not allow us to fully spread the sails and set off, and the future looks like a rocky shore on which our ship of hopes and aspirations can crash, because of which we invariably change course for the worse. The problem is that: we do not enjoy the moment that we are living now; we do not squeeze the maximum of emotions out of today in fear of retribution tomorrow.

Do you want to start your own business, revive your favorite hobby and relationships with a person? Do not think about the difficulties that await you, but just go towards your dream. Difficulties are inevitable, but you must be ready to overcome them in order to create a brighter future.

Everything can always be changed

You may think that many mistakes can no longer be corrected. Each oversight has its own consequences, which you don’t want to face again. But this is the psychology of weaklings, and you are not like that, are you? Focus on one problem and solve it. Every day is a new opportunity to make a difference. Of course, everything will not work out at once, but solving problem after problem, you will not notice how thunderclouds leave your life, and a rainbow appears in the sky after a long rain and the long-forgotten Sun comes out.

The future is not defined

And that's what makes it great. You won't know how the undertaking will end until you try. Maybe you have always dreamed of writing a book, but you were afraid that you would be ridiculed and your views mixed with mud. But how do you know? Until you try, you won't know. Perhaps because of your insecurity, the world will lose a wonderful author, or perhaps this is really not yours, but believe me, everything will not be as scary as it seems. People are by nature very suspicious and think that the world revolves only around them, but sometimes, fortunately, this is not so.

You can always improve yourself

Many regrets due to the fact that we are forced to give up. We all tend to be sad, but sadness should not be allowed to turn into depression. Also, each of us has ever failed, but it is important how quickly you can recover from it and start over. The most important thing is that there is always an opportunity for self-improvement. Whether you're a winner or a loser today, you can get better. A person who constantly develops can always look to the future with optimism, and the skills gained from working on himself will allow him to use every opportunity for new beginnings.

When I saw this video on YouTube about six months ago. My first thought was that after all, this same person chose artificial all the time, he does not say anything. Not a word about his personal life, about happiness and family, and about relationships with relatives and friends. Now, when I saw this video, for the second time here on the Resource, the thought went even so that the main thing I would highlight is what hooked me - these are his words:

For 80 years I still have gunpowder in the flasks. I still have dreams that I aspire to

When you think it's too late, be careful - You may choose an excuse to give up, no one can stop you from success except yourself

80 years I still have gunpowder in the flasks, I still have dreams that I strive for ...

Believe your potential must be realized!
When you think it's too late Be careful - You may choose an excuse to give up, no one can stop you from success except yourself